Welcome!
Welcome Town of Babylon CSEA to
TLC Virtual Resiliency: Virtual Support to Help You Survive and Thrive!
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
If you haven’t done so already, please complete your Resiliency Assessment here!
TLC-VR conducts regular surveys to track your group’s progress on mental health resiliency, and to improve and tailor the workshops and content to your group’s specific needs. To ensure confidentiality, your responses are completely anonymous and will only ever be analyzed on a group level.
TLC Virtual Resiliency (TLC-VR) is proud to provide you with a group-based, virtual, custom wellness and resiliency-building program designed to empower you to better respond and adapt to adversity, anxiety, and everyday stresses you encounter in both your personal and professional lives. Best of all, the custom curriculum is provided to you completely FREE as a wellness benefit from the Town of Babylon!
Your TLC-VR curriculum is delivered through Live, Interactive, Group Workshops at the Pool Building.
Your Group will meet on Wednesday’s at 10am on the following dates:
August 18th: Intro to TLC-VR
August 25th: Wellness is an Effort
September 1st: Becoming an Effective Change Agent
September 8th: Grit & Perseverance
September 15th: PERMA
September 22nd: Relationships, Conflict Resolution, and Compassionate Communication
Between weekly workshops, support one another and receive daily resources specific to your group in your private Slack group.
Your Virtual Assistant Concierge is available to answer questions and provide you with Weekly Videos and Resources, all of which are continuously updated to address the specific needs of your group.
Meet Your Workshop Facilitator:
Dr. Paul Meller
Dr. Paul Meller is a licensed psychologist with over thirty-years of experience. He is a leading voice nationally in the promotion of wellness and psychological well-being. Dr. Meller has worked with children, families, public agencies, Courts, community-based organizations, Head Start Programs, and over 150 school-districts in promoting wellness and building resiliency. He has developed numerous prevention and training programs with the goal of promoting wellness, building resiliency, and decreasing conflict.
Dr. Meller is an associate professor of Psychology, Criminal Justice, and Law at Hofstra University. He is the Director of the Doctoral Training Program in School-Community, Psychology. Dr. Meller also serves as the Director of the Institute for Family Forensic Psychology, and the Director of Mediation at the Hofstra University School of Law – Center for Children, Families, and the Law. He earned a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from the State University of New York at Stony Brook, a Master of Arts in developmental psychology from Columbia University, and a Doctorate in school psychology from Syracuse University. Dr. Meller plays leadership roles and/or has been a founding member of a number of professional organizations.
In his spare time Dr. Meller enjoys working-out, practicing yoga, and playing guitar. He can be seen riding his motorcycle around his hometown twelve months a year.
Meet Your Virtual Assistant Concierge
Elyse Harrison
Elyse Harrison is here to support you and your colleagues from the Town of Babylon CSEA on a day-to-day basis throughout the duration of the program. She is willing and able to answer questions, help you find personal resources, and help manage the group interaction and participation.
Elyse is a fourth year doctoral student in Hofstra’s School-Community Psychology program. She is passionate about bettering the lives of others and helping them thrive despite challenges and setbacks. In her spare time, she enjoys exploring nature with her dog and traveling whenever possible. She looks forward to helping individuals on their journey to resilience with TLC-VR.
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Join the Discussion in the TLC-VR / CSEA
Private Slack Channel!
In between weekly workshops, discuss the week’s topics and support one another in our private Community Forum. Your Virtual Assistant Concierge is available to answer questions and provide you with daily resources, all of which is continuously designed and updated to address the specific needs of our group.
Resources
Communication
What is Active Constructive Responding? by Juliette Tocino-Smith
Is There a Better Way to Have an Argument? by Caroline Hopper & Laura Tavares
Want to Pay Someone a Life-Changing Compliment? Start With These 6 Words by Bill Murphy Jr.
How to Set Healthy Boundaries: 10 Examples + PDF Worksheets by Joaquín Selva
How to Make a Good Apology Jane Park
Donkeys, Carrots, & Sticks by Dr. Russ Harris
4 Ways to Build Your Social Intelligence by Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D.
Resolve Conflict at Work (Greater Good in Action) by Greater Good
Making an Effective Apology (Greater Good in Action) by Greater Good
How to Respond to Passive-Aggressive Behavior by Tina Gilbertson
Compassion
How To Practice Gratitude In A Not-Cheesy Way Because It Actually Feels Pretty Good by Carolyn de Lorenzo
How to Avoid Compassion Burnout by Patricia Corrigan
Train Your Brain to Be Kinder by Jane Park
Rachel’s Challenge by Darrell Scott
The Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE) by Stanford Medicine
Articles on Compassion by PositivePsychology .com
Self-Compassion Will Make You a Better Leader by Rich Fernandez and Steph Stern
Connection
Community | Greater Good by Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkley
Relationships | Greater Good by Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley
The Myth of Romantic Expectations by Randi Gunther Ph.D.
Articles on Positive Relationships by Positive Psychology
How to Give Up a Grudge by Scott Barry Kaufman Ph.D.
How to Keep Connecting with Strangers During the Pandemic by Jill Suttie
Avoiding The “Four Horsemen” in Relationships | Practice | GGIA by Greater Good
In A Pandemic, Elbow Touches Might Keep Us Going by Leif Hass
Nurtured By Nature by Kristen Weir
People’s Words and Actions Can Actually Shape Your Brain — A Neuroscientist Explains How by Lisa Feldman Barrett PhD
COVID-19
Life after COVID-19: Making space for growth by American Psychological Association
Three Positive Psychology Practices for Our Troubled Times by David B. Feldman Ph.D.
Supporting Learning and Well-Being During the Coronavirus Crisis by Greater Good In Education
Coronavirus Corner – Helpful Expert Tips and Resources to Manage Anxiety by Anxiety and Depression Association of America
How “COVID fatigue” clouds judgment and endangers public health by Eileen Drage O’Reilly
Supporting Your Mental Health During Coronavirus by All Mental Health
In Pandemic Era’s Isolation, Meaning of ‘Self-Care’ Evolves by Anne D’Innocenzio and Sophia Rosenbaum
Education (Educator & Student Well-Being)
My Well-Being by Greater Good In Education
Articles On Positive Education by Positive Psychology
Student Well-Being by Greater Good In Education
Prosocial Academic Instruction by Greater Good In Education
by Greater Good
Positive School Relationships by Greater Good at Berkeley
Fostering Positive School Relationships by Greater Good at Berkeley
Emotional Intelligence
To Build Emotional Strength, Expand Your Brain by Monika Aichele
Feel Like You’re Going Out of Your Mind? Consider Your Mind-Set by Alina Tugend
Why Emotional Intelligence Is Important At Work (+ free EQ course access) by Gemma Leigh Roberts
6 Negative Mindsets That Increase Your Anxiety by Melanie Greenberg Ph.D.
Goals/Change
Willpower by James Clear
The Practice of Saying, “Yes” by Tara Brach Ph.D.
Articles on Motivation and Goals by PositivePsychology .com
Why You Should Define Your Fears Instead of Your Goals by Tim Ferriss
Goal Visualization | Practice by Silver Linings Practices
How to Get Better at Achieving Your Goals by Christine Carter Ph.D.
4 Reasons Why Change Is Hard, But Worth It by Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D.
Gratitude
Articles on Gratitude by PositivePsychology .com
Gratitude Meditation: A Simple But Powerful Happiness Intervention by Joaquín Selva
Giving thanks can make you happier by Harvard Heathbeat
Habits
How to Build New Habits: This is Your Strategy Guide by James Clear
The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
Why is it So Hard to Create Permanent Habits? by Scott H. Young
How to Avoid Slipping Back into Bad Habits by Kira Newman
Trade Bad Habits For Good Ones by Harvard Health
The Powerful Pull of Repeating Old Routines by Alex Korb PhD
Happiness
What Makes Us Happier Than Money?
by Jane Park
Wisebrain.org: Home by Rick Hanson Ph.D., Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom
Optimism Bias: Human Brain May Be Hardwired for Hope – TIME by Tali Sharot
The #1 Reason Why We Want More And More (And More) by Seph Pennock
Articles on Positive Psychology by Positive Psychology
Articles on Positie Emotions by Positive Psychology
Articles on Happiness and Subjective Well-Being by PositivePsychology
How Dan Harris Became 10% Happier by Dan Harris
75 Inspiring Motivational Quotes for Being Happier by Jeff Haden
Scientific Research Shows Happiness Make Us More Resilient by Karen Guggenheim
Mental Health
9 Ways to Improve Your Emotional Regulation Skills by Sandra Bilbray
Articles on Positive CBT by Positive Psychology
In Pandemic Era’s Isolation, Meaning of ‘Self-Care’ Evolves by Anne D’Innocenzio and Sophia Rosenbaum
Articles on Positive Psychology & Therapies by Positive Psychology
Why Entrepreneurs Need To Talk About Their Mental Health by Dan Murray-Serter
Mindfulness
Mindfulness Meditation Videos, Exercises, Books and Courses (+PDF) by Joaquín Selva
Readings For Personal Growth & Happiness
by Eckhart Tolle
Mindfulness Exercises to Use During the Coronavirus Lockdown by Paul Greene Ph.D.
The Importance of Mindfulness: 20+ Reasons to Practice Mindfulness by Jeremy Sutton
How to Clear Your Head by Jane Park
Articles on Mindfulness by PositivePsychology .com
“Allow Life To Be Just As It Is” by Tara Brach Ph.D.
Mind & Body Connection
Eight Ways Your Perception of Reality Is Skewed by Jill Suttie
One Cardio Workout= Two Hours of Supercharged Brainpower by Christopher Bergland
The Ultimate Diet Guide for Stress Management by Kelly Kennedy
Articles on Body & Brain by PositivePsychology.com
Train Your Brain’s Flexibility With These 7 Tips by Susan Krauss Whitbourne
Custom Diets Are Essential to Mental Health by Binghamton University
Parenting/Family
by Greater Good
Positive Parenting: Strengthening Family Relationships by Kenneth Barrs
Banish the Boogeyman by Jessica Sillers
Post Traumatic Growth
How Getting COVID-19 Forced Me to Re-Examine My Life by Radha Ruparell
Coping with a Traumatic Event by CDC Department of Health and Human Services
Resiliency
The 7 Cs of Resilience – John Dabell
by John Dabell
Five Science-Backed Strategies to Build Resilience by Kira Newman
Developing Resilience – Bounce Back from Setbacks by Mind Tools Content Team
How to beat Loneliness |by Guy Wince
Daily Stoic | Stoic Wisdom For Everyday Life by Daily Stoic
Articles on Resilience & Coping by Positive Psychology
5 Lessons COVID-19 Has Taught Us About Resilience by Molly Povich
Self-Awareness
What is self-awareness? And how can you cultivate it? by Gabriel Alcala
10 days of Positive Thinking by Ted Talks
Seven Ways to Find Your Purpose in Life by Jill Suttie
Articles on Strengths & Virtues by Positive Psychology
Articles on Meaning and Values by Positive Psychology
8 Ways to Tune in to What Really Matters–YOU! by Janeane Bernstein
Society
Positive Psychology & Culture by Greater Good
How to Keep Technology from Disrupting Your Happiness by Kira Newman
Articles on Media & Tech by Greater Good at Berkeley
How to Use Social Media Wisely and Mindfully by Ravi Chandra
Articles on Politics by Positive Psychology
Articles on Society by Greater Good
How to avoid feeling defeated in today’s crazy world by Time Desmond
How to Help All Students Feel Safe to Be Themselves by Naomi Ondrasek & Lisa Flook
Stress & Anxiety
How To Find Balance During This Stressful Time by Dominique Apollon
How To Harness Your Anxiety by Russ Harris
10 Ways to Overcome Your Inner Bully by Dana Adams
19 Physical Tolls You Didn’t Realize Anxiety Can Take On Your Body by Esther Bell and JR Thorpe
10 Proven Methods for Fixing Cognitive Distortions by John Grohol
8 Tricks Sleep Experts Use When 2020 Anxiety Keeps Them Awake by Seraphina Seow
Workplace Wellness/ Burnout
How the Rule of 150 Impacts Your Company by Iulia-Cristina UȚĂ
How to Build a Culture of Generosity at Work by Wayne Baker
What to Do When Your Employee Is Totally Checked Out by Rebecca Knight
The Upside of Being Interrupted At Work by James Adonis
Three Key Conditions to Create a Healthy Workplace by Bill Morrison
Half Full or Half Empty: Negativity Kills Employee Engagement by Jenna Cyprus
Four Keys To A Healthy Workplace Hierarchy by Lindred Greer
Plan for Resilience – Employee Guide by Centre for Mental Health in the Workplace
Burnout Can Exacerbate Work Stress, Further Promoting A Vicious Circle by Universitaet Mainz
Stanford psychologist tells us how to fight workplace burnout by Nara Schoenberg
How To Avoid Burnout While Working From Home by Margaret O’Malley
Fake commutes: Benefits for mental health and work-life balance by Kristen Rogers
Workplace | Greater Good by Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley
How to Support the People You Lead in Times of… by Ellen Von Oosten
10 Creative Ways Organizations Are Supporting The Mental Health Of Remote Employees by Christopher Littlefield
Happiness
Forgiveness
Gratitude
Goals
Mindfulness
Self-Awareness
Self- Esteem
Resiliency
Stress
Will Power/Change
Work/Leadership
Compassion/ Inspiration
Social Connections/ Boundaries
Flow
Positive Thinking/ Optimism
Parenting
Tramua/ Mental Health
Unconscious Mind
Beginner’s Mind
Generosity
Gratitude
Letting Go
Non-Judging
Patience
Self-Acceptance
Trust
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
The Struggle Switch by Dr. Russ Harris
The Secret to Self-Control by Jonathan Bricker
The Power of Believing That You Can Improve by Carol Dweck
Psychological Flexibility: How Love Turns Pain Into Purpose by Steven Hayes
Compassion
On Humanity by Chris Albani
I am the Son of a Terrorist. Here’s How I Choose Peace by Zak Ebrahim
Reconnection With Compassion by Krista Tippett
Settling for Health and Happiness by Donnovan Yisrael
The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
Why Aren’t We More Compassionate by Daniel Goleman
Compassion at the Dinner Table by James Forbes
Day And Night by Disney Animations
Dr Seuss’ The Sneetches by William Everett
A Divided Classroom by Frontline (full film)
Coping Skills
Brain Dump: 1-Minute Emotion Coping Skill by Therapy in a Nutshell
The Lost Art of Letter Writing by Lakshmi Pratury
Writing Our Way Out of Trouble by Sue Reynolds
Poetry as Therapy by Rachel McKibbens
Forgiveness
What Comes After Tragedy? Forgiveness by Azim Khamisa and Ples Felix
Forgiveness, Stress Management, and Happiness by Dr. Luskin
9/11 Healing: The Mothers Who Found Forgiveness, Friendship by Phyllis Rodriguez and Aicha el-Wafi
The Real Risk of Forgiveness – And Why It’s Worth It by Sarah Montana
Gratitude
Nature. Beauty. Gratitude. by Louie Schwartzberg
365 Grateful Project by Hailey Bartholomew
Your Happiness Days are Behind You by Robert Biswas-Diener
The Power of Appreciation by Mike Robbins
How Thanking Awakens Our Thinking by Kerry Howells
Discover the Three Keys of Gratitude to Unlock Your Happiest Life! by Jane Ransom
The Transformative Power of Gratitude by Katia Sol
A Story About Knots and Surgeons by Ed Gavagan
My Journey to Thank All the People Responsible for My Morning Coffee by A.J. Jacobs
Measuring What Makes Life Worthwhile by Chip Conley
An Experiment in Gratitude by The Science of Happiness
The Gratitude Experiment by WatchWellCast
Oprah’s Gratitude Journal by Oprah Winfrey
Gratitude Works! The Science and Practice of Saying Thanks by Robert Emmons
The Science of Gratitude by Tremendousness
Gratitude Is Good For You by The John Templeton Foundation
Gratitude: The Short Film by Louie Shwartzberg
The Four A’s for Expressing Gratitude by Brian Tracy
Gratitude: The Most Powerful Practice You’re Not Doing by Marie Forleo
The Power of Gratitude by Humanity Healing
How to Create Daily Habits of Gratitude and Appreciation by Jack Canfield
Practice Gratitude, Learn to Say Thank You by Jason Silva
Benefits of Gratitude by Robert Emmons
The Power of Saying Thank You by Laura Trice
Want to be Happy? Be Grateful by David Steindl-Rast
365 Days of Thank You by Brian Doyle
Habits
A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit by Judson Brewer
How To Break A Habit by Charles Duhigg
HEALTHY HABITS: 10 Daily Habits That Changed My Life by The Whole Happy Life
Happiness
The Happiness Advantage: Linking Positive Brains to Performance by Shawn Achor
Flow, The Secret To Happiness by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
My Philosophy for a Happy Life by Sam Berns
Less Stuff, More Happiness by Graham Hill
How to Buy Happiness by Michael Norton
The Habits of Happiness by Matthieu Ricard
There’s More to Life Than Being Happy by Emily Esfahani Smith
Want to be Happier? Stay in the Moment by Matt Killingsworth
The Surprising Science of Happiness by Dan Gilbert
PERMA by Martin Seligman
Why We’re Unhappy – The Expectation Gap by Nat Ware
The Happy Secret to Better Work by Shawn Achor
What Will Make a Good Life? Lessons from the Longest Study on Happiness by Robert Waldinger
Choice, Happiness and Spaghetti Sauce by Malcolm Gladwell
The Riddle of Experience vs. Memory by Daniel Khaneman
Hackschooling Makes Me Happy by Logan LaPlante
Where Joy Hides and Where to Find It by Ingrid Fetell Lee
The Case for Curiosity-Driven Research by Suzie Sheehy
Finding Awe In The Ordinary by Jane Park
Managing Stress and Anxiety
How to Make Stress Your Friend by Kelly McGonigal
Rewiring the Anxious Brain by Therapy in a Nutshell
Stress Reduction (Fast)- Anxiety Reduction Technique by Therapy in a Nutshell
Overwhelmed? Do This! An Antidote to Feeling Overwhelmed by Therapy in a Nutshell
All or Nothing Thinking: A Cognitive Distortion That Leads to Depression by Therapy in a Nutshell
Listening to Shame by Brené Brown
Mindfulness
9 Attitudes of Mindfulness by Jon Kabat Zinn
All It Takes is 10 Mindful Minutes by Andy Puddicombe
A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit by Judson Brewer
Mindfulness in Schools by Richard Burnett
The Mindful Way Through Depression by Zindel Segal
Mindfulness and Healing by Shannon Paige
The Psychology of Time by Philip Zimbardo
How Mindfulness Mediation Redefines Pain, Happiness & Satisfaction by Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat
The Practice of Mindfulness by Diana Winston
The Art of Stillness by Pico Iyer
Poetry as Therapy by Rachel McKibbens
Guided Meditation for Gratitude by Linda Hall
30 Seconds To Mindfulness by Phil Boissiere
You Aren’t at the Mercy of Your Emotions — Your Brain Creates Them by Lisa Feldman Barrett
Loving Kindness Meditation by UHN Health and Wellness
5-Minute Meditation You Can Do Anywhere by Goodful
Mind & Body
The Brain Changing Benefits Of Exercise by Wendy Suzuki
How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across A Lifetime by Nadine Burke Harris
Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski On Responding To Stress by JINSIDER
Self-Esteem
Meet Yourself: A User’s Guide To Building Self-Esteem by Niko Everett
Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth by Adia Gooden
Increase Your Self-Awareness With One Easy Fix by Tasha Eurich
Positive Psychology
Playful Inquiry – Try This Anywhere by Robyn Stratton-Berkessel
The New Era of Positive Psychology by Martin Seligman
The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz
The Optimism Bias by Tali Sharot
Learned Optimism By Martin Seligman Animated by Fight Mediocrity
The Happy Planet Index by Nic Marks
Warning: Being Positive is Not for the Faint Hearted by Lea Waters
Imagine Abundance: Everyone Wins! by Carine Clark
Relationships
Creating More Meaningful Relationships in the Age of Technology by Daniel Newman
The Secret to Living Longer May Be Your Social Life by Susan Pinker
How Our Friendship Survives Our Opposing Politics by Caitlin Quatromani and Lauran Arledge
Connected, but Alone? by Sherry Turkle
I Trust You by Karmin Sulayman
How to Speak so That People Want to Listen by Julian Treasure
4 Habits of ALL Successful Relationships by Dr. Andrea and Jonathan Taylor-Cummings
Resiliency
The Game That Can Give You 10 Extra Years of Life by Jane McGonigal
The Power of Resilience by Sam Goldstein, Ph.D
Resilience – How to FALL UP by Gregg Steinberg
What Trauma Taught Me About Resilience by Charles Hunt
Getting Stuck In The Negative (And How To Get Unstuck) by Alison Ledgerwood
Who Moved My Cheese by Luis Gerardo
The Power Of Vulnerability by Brene Brown
The Power Of Emotional Intelligence by Travis Bredberry
Sleep
Sleep Hygiene: Train Your Brain to Fall Asleep and Sleep Better by Therapy in a Nutshell
Sleep, Anxiety, and Insomnia: How to Sleep Better When You’re Anxious by Therapy in a Nutshell
Strength and Grit
A Universal Language that Describes What’s Best in Us by Ryan Niemiec
Focusing on Your Strengths by Shane Lopez
Want to Bring Out the Best in People? Start With Strengths by Chris Wejr
The Strength in Weakness by Richard Shotton
Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Lee Duckworth
Thoughts/ Cognitions
How To Stop Cognitive Distortions: Bad Thoughts and Poison Minds by Thrive Union
How To Think Win/Win Mentality by Benefit Books
CBT Unhealthy Thinking Styles (Stop Self-Sabotaging Now) by Barbara Heffeman
TLC-VR Yoga Challenge Videos
Intro to the TLC-VR 7 Day Yoga Challenge
TLC-VR 7 Day Yoga Challenge: Day 1- Gentle Yoga
TLC-VR 7 Day Yoga Challenge: Day 2- Restorative Yoga
TLC-VR 7 Day Yoga Challenge: Day 3- Yoga Flow
TLC-VR 7 Day Yoga Challenge: Day 4- Yin Yoga
TLC-VR 7 Day Yoga Challenge: Day 5- Yoga Nidra
TLC-VR 7 Day Yoga Challenge: Day 6- Yoga for Core Strength
TLC-VR 7 Day Yoga Challenge: Day 7- Hatha Yoga
Breathing Exercises
Cleansing Breath for Stress Relief
Humming Breath
Breath of Fire
Breath Retention to Calm your Mind
Meditation
TLC-VR Meditation: Resilience, Strength, and Courage
TLC-VR Meditation: Opening your Heart and Mind
Yin Yoga
TLC-VR Introduction to Yin Yoga: Legs, Hips, Lower Back
TLC-VR Yin Yoga: Back and Shoulders
TLC-VR Yin Yoga: Spine and Lower Back
TLC-VR Yin Yoga: Hips and Shoulders
TLC-VR Relaxing Yin Yoga
TLC-VR Relaxing Yin Flow for Hips and Lower Back
TLC-VR Yin Yoga: Hip Opener to Build Resilience and Strength
Yoga Flow
TLC-VR Energizing Yoga Flow: Sun Salutations
TLC-VR Yoga Flow For Limited Space
TLC-VR Yoga Flow for Balance
TLC-VR Standing Series: 4 Minute Yoga Flow
TLC-VR Moon Flow
TLC-VR Energetic Yoga Flow
Yoga
TLC-VR Chair Yoga 1
TLC-VR Yoga for Balance
TLC-VR Seated Yoga Poses for Deep Hip Muscles
TLC-VR Apartment Yoga: Shoulder and Neck Poses to Relieve Stress
TLC-VR Chair Yoga 2
